To the one who’s suffocating with guilt because you failed again…you clicked on that image, watched that movie…you went too far before you married him…
Sweet friend, this is for you. No matter what happened in the past, even if it was yesterday: Your purity is not lost.
The enemy loves feeding you the lie that you’ve been violated beyond God’s grace. But you know what? You’re not powerful enough to change His love for you.
“And you…God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross”(Colossians 2:13b-14, ESV).
I’ve felt the shame and discouragement you’re going through. I know what it feels like to think God can’t use you anymore. And that’s why I desperately want you to understand these truths from Scripture.
Dear girl: Your purity isn’t defined by your actions.
We were all born in sin, and even our most earnest attempts to do right fall short of God’s holiness (Isaiah 64:6). But that’s why Jesus died–so He could give us His purity. The minute He saved us, God chose to see His righteousness instead of our filth.
Yes, sexual sin is wrong, and the consequences hurt. Physical purity will always be a fight, and sometimes you’ll lose. But you can start again because Jesus enables His children to lead a moral life. And even when you do fall into lust or impure actions–His cross speaks louder than your mistakes. Your sin doesn’t eliminate His grace–it only magnifies it.
John 8 example
Remember the adulterous woman in John 8? What did Jesus tell her after He had called off the Pharisees from stoning her? When she stood, pitiful and humiliated, staring at Him in fear, look what happened…
“Jesus stood up and said to her, ‘Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?’ She said ‘No one, Lord.’ And Jesus said, ‘Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more’” (John 8:10-11, ESV).
Neither do I condemn you…
This woman had been caught cheating on her husband. She was the last thing from “pure” by any human standards. In fact, she was condemned to death by the people. But what did Jesus say? “I do not condemn you.”
This woman was purified by Jesus, and you can be too. Forever. And nothing you do can change that, or His love for you (Romans 8:38-39).
At the end of that passage, Jesus told the woman to go and sin no more. But He wasn’t implying she had to be perfect. He was simply empowering her to start again. He set her free from the guilt of this failure.
“Then he adds, ‘I will remember their sins and their lawless deeds no more.’ …let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. (Hebrews 10:17, 22-23, ESV).”
When you have Jesus on your side, you don’t have to fear condemnation. Because Perfect Love casts out fear (1 John 4:8), and Jesus IS your Perfect Love.
“God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Corinthians 5:21, NIV).
HE is your righteousness. HE is your sanctification. HE is your hope when Satan kicks you down. No matter how dirty you feel, God sees Jesus when He looks at you, and your purity isn’t lost as long as Jesus is alive.
“Create in me a pure heart, O God,and renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psalm 51:10, NIV).
“What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?” (Romans 6:1-2, NIV)
For extra encouragement, give these songs a listen. They’re so dear to my heart and I promise they’ll lift your spirits. ❤
- Before the Throne of God Above – Keith & Kristyn Getty
- Reckless Love – Cory Asbury
- Living Hope – Phil Wickham
- Death Was Arrested – North Point Inside Out
- Loyal – Lauren Daigle
- Jesus Paid it All – Fernando Ortega
- Lord, I Need You – Matt Maher
- Hiding Place – Steven Curtis Chapman