Hi everyone! My sister-in-law, Brittney, was so kind to write today’s post, and I’m really excited for you to hear from her (again). Make sure you check the end of this post for the link to another one she wrote! ❤
Like Mother, Like Daughter.
- Easy forgiveness
- Spiritual conversations
Like most people claim, I too have the best mom around. She is loving and kind, sincere and selfless—a wonderful example to me throughout my life. Our journey has not always been a typical one, but the grace of God abounds and has grown us together for His glory.
My mom and step-dad were saved when I was around eight years old, and God graciously saved me when I was about twelve. By and by, God sovereignly appointed my three other siblings to salvation! Which made for a whirlwind of learning and growing! We were all on a common journey, running hard after Christ.
I am so thankful for the perfect orchestration of God’s perfect will. Since we were both young believers, Mom and I were able to really grow and learn together. The richness of God’s Word was a fresh feast to us. We were continually having conversations about doctrines we were learning and new and exciting (as well as challenging) ways God was magnifying Himself to us. Being able to navigate the ways the gospel changes a person’s life with my mom was an immense gift.
I realize that this is not the reality for many daughters, but the principle still holds true! If your mother is a believer in Christ, she will always be learning, and so will you. Pick a reputable study to work through a book of the bible together, set aside time each week to pray with and for one another. If your mom has a busy schedule, jump into her activities if you can. Have conversations while folding laundry or while working on a project. There is always time to talk.
Dialogue is an important component to any relationship, but encouraging and theological dialogue is essential among believers. So while my experience with my mother may not be the norm, the element of communication is so important! Seek wisdom from your mom on things you’re learning, or study something new together.
As we anticipate the day when we will be forever in the presence of the Lord, living out 1 Thessalonians 5:11 is a challenging and nourishing feat:
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”
If your mom is a believer, be a sister in Christ to your mom. Encourage her and be encouraged by her.
The biblical perspective you gain by seeing your mother this way overflows into all other areas of your relationship, including conflict. Don’t be beguiled by the rosy picture painted earlier that my mom and I never encountered conflict. We certainly did. Countless are the times I’ve sinned against her and she against me. However, having a solid, Christ-exalting, fruit-bearing foundation laid through the Word continually teaches us to forgive quickly and extend grace upon grace to one another.
Holding grudges and keeping a record of wrongs is incompatible with serving Christ. Conflict is bred out of pride, and there are so many times that James 3 and Matthew 7:3-5 pierce my heart as God teaches me to see and hate my own sin, not immediately run to another person’s sin. Loving your mom as Christ has loved you changes everything. Reflecting Christ in conflict is, in my experience, one of the most difficult areas of the Christian life. Considering the other person (in this case, your dear mother) better than yourself acts as a sort of balm and may prevent those all-too-easy-to-fall-into mother-daughter throw downs!
Study the Scriptures to learn about the way God desires us to communicate with one another. Cry out to God that He would teach you to season your words with salt, to be gracious, gentle, kind, humble, and patient. Growing in Him will make the fruit you bear more glorious.
And if your mother is not a believer in Christ, still pursue her and love her! This doesn’t only apply to daughters who have born-again mothers. Be that city on a hill to her, share words of Life with her. See her through the filter of the gospel—a soul in need of Christ. Plead with God to save her.
No daughter is capable of perfectly loving her mother. No one is capable of perfectly loving anyone. Our love is imperfect. But we have perfect love in Christ. His love will heal and grow and mend and challenge us. So, in our pursuits of loving our mothers, let us dig deeper and fuller into God’s perfect love. That is the love that will cause our relationships to beautifully blossom. Sometimes slowly, sometimes through harsh conditions, but God is a fruitful God.
John 15:2, 4-5 “Every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit…”
As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”
Let us love our mothers to love Christ! Love more richly for His glory and for your good.
A little bit about our guest…
Hello, everyone! I’m Brittney, sister-in-law of the amazing Abigail of Finer Confidence. I’m married to her even-more-amazing brother, Kenan. We’ve been married almost 4 years, and we have one son Kaleb, who is almost 18 months old.
I love spending time with my two favorite fellas, reading, cooking new recipes, being outside, and growing in theology. A verse that has been challenging and encouraging in this season of life has been Mark 10:45: “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” I love serving my family and others, and I hope this post serves you in some way!
That’s all for today!
If you’re interested in the other post featuring Brittney, you can check it out here: 3 Reasons to Write to Your Future Husband
Have a beautiful weekend 🙂